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Magic Questions
"With unlimited time and money, what would you like to see yourself becoming in the next 5 years?"
"Why is that important to you?"
Have you ever answered those questions before?
If you haven't, perhaps you might want to take a moment to think about them. The first question, when taken seriously, helps you discover where your passion, and your greatest potential, lies in Life. The second invokes an emotional response that serves to further strengthen that conviction.
I recall a time all the way back when I was just inducted into Unicity, and my training with Eng Hai began when he asked me: "What is the ideal Kelly like?"
To which I said: "He's a confident person, strong & assertive, and very charismatic!"
"And why is being that person important to you?"
I remember feeling an overwhelming emotion build inside of me as I muttered: "Because I'm tired of being inconfident, unpopular, and always in the background."
And those 2 questions has become the pillar for my growth over the last 4 years in business.
However, be careful as these questions can also be misused.
Two months ago I was brought to a guest event by AsiaWorks, a company that does workshops for personal development. After sitting through the event, I decided to sign up and see how else I could better myself.
And so I was tended to by a lady who was in-charged of workshop sales who asked me: "So Kelly, what kind of person do you want to see yourself becoming?" And I answered that. And she went on to "And why is that so important to you?" Ah! I recognise that pattern! I'd rather not have just about anyone ask me those questions, but then it's a nice touch to have the sales person ask the prospective participant those questions, as it serves to secure their commitment into the workshop. I signed up with a deposit.
Then a few weeks later, someone else form the company called me for some pre-workshop preparations, and she too, asked me those same questions. What? Those questions again?I was a little annoyed, but I answered anyway.
And finally, I got a final call from yet ANOTHER person from the company, and, yes you've guessed it, they started asking me those same questions all over again. To say that I was a little annoyed is an understatement. I was furious! What's with these people!? Is my profile passed around the entire company for the scrutiny of every single staff in the office?
There's only 2 reasons why people would keep asking those questions:
1) They weren't listening and had to ask again
2) They're using those questions for emotional manipulation
Everytime someone has to answer those questions, it lays bare their being to others, and it takes alot out of them to do so. I say we ask those questions with lots of respect. To forget that and ask like it's a trivia game show only makes the respondee feel increasingly vulnerable, and nobody likes that. I don't like that.
These are magic questions to a better life. Treat them with respect.
posted by Kelly Lim @ Thursday, August 03, 2006
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