Here's a good example of how dreams do come true.

3 Months ago, I set myself up to qualify for the Business Builder's Club, a quarterly company-wide recognition event for Unicity business associates who has sustained a certain level of results in their business. Those who know me saw how I went through alot of hard work, stresses and anxiety, disappointments as I struggled for the goal.

And I did it. So here's how the fruits of that labor was like.

A few hours ago, I attended the first ever Business Builder's Club Recognition event, held in the very posh Ritz Carlton Millenia Hotel in Singapore. Present with me were the other elites of the company, including fellow Team Rich members Eng Hai, Nancy Long, Rachel Tan, and Amy Toh.

We were treated to one of the most exquisite cuisines I've ever seen, for example:

I didn't know what soup this was, but the shrimps were very fresh and sweet. And just when you are finishing up the soup and your spoon is scraping the bottom of the bowl, you'll be pleasantly suprised by the fish roe sitting at the bottom of the soup. Heavenly!

This desert cake is just so pretty that I almost felt bad ruining it to eat. But when I did it tasted so good!

The food wasn't the only thing that was good; we had top notch dinner company too: Dining with us was David Card, VP of Unicity's SEA operations, and Aaron Webber, the CEO of Unicity International, who flew in from his meeting in Hong Kong to join us for dinner. What an honor!

Aaron Webber is an amazing individual, not because he was the CEO of a multi-billion dollar company like Unicity, but because he was a true blue people person with a very strong integrity to match. On top of that, he takes time to get to know people.

During the dinner, he turned and told me with a smile: "Ah, Kelly, I've read about you in your one-page profile, " referring to an article Unicity published, featuring me as the youngest recognised business builder in Singapore, "its good! Now we've got to get you to finish University!" He was referring to the part of my profile that said that I gave up University for Unicity. What an eye for detail!

I had alot of fun this evening. It really opened my eyes to be able to dine with humble giants like Aaron and David. For those of us who were present, our pleasure was two-fold: one, in knowing that we have given our best of efforts, and two, that we have finally gotten into the Business Builder's Club as a result of our efforts! I felt we deserved every bit of this celebration :)

And so, each of us went of with the following:

A beautiful trophy signifying my success in getting into the Business Builder's Club...

... and a set of 15 Unicity Gold Coins, made of 24-Carat gold. Each coin has, imprinted on it, the flag of a country where Unicity has established its corporate presence. They're each covered in a transparent plastic case, to protect the coins from scratches.

As we started to leave at the end of the celebration, David Card shook my hand and said to me: "Congratulations, Kelly. You'll be an example for the younger generation in Unicity." I was beaming from ear to ear.

And so, Dreams do come true; and good things do happen for those who has put in time and energy in building their dreams. If, one day, you begin to wonder if you'll ever get there, just remember that here's someone, just like you, who's been through the struggles, and reached his goal.

So if you've set your heart to do something, all you've got to stick to it. And have faith that it will happen.

And it will definitely happen, for just about anyone.

So here's to your Dreams that'll come true. Cheers! :)

Outside of my networking business, I also partake in Rotaract Club activites. This keeps me socially active, even during lull business periods.

At one time, I was part of a committee responsible for organising the installation ceremony, where we would officiate the new incoming committee members for the coming year. A few of us wanted to do something a little different from the usual sit-down dinner-cum-performances, and suggested that we have activities that would get the audience and guests involved and have fun.

Naturally, there were some in the committee who were skeptical. One particularly prominent member objected, saying that it was not a good idea, and it may not adhere to the Rotaractor's protocol. Yet when asked what can we do to get around the problem, he could not give a firm reply. I think he hasn't given much thought to what can be done, as opposed to what cannot.

I identify this as what people would normally call "deductive thinking": you deduce what cannot be done, until you're left with what is safe to do. Sometimes there's nothing much left to make good of anything. Yet, I realise that this seems to be the preferred mode of thinking for most of us.

I had a conversation with a business associate in my charge, and we were discussing about what we could do to help make her business grow multi-folds. I thought if we could come up with a few good ideas that she could execute, there's no reason why we can't see some growth in her business organisation.

But everytime we were examining and idea, she would come up with objections like:

"But not everyone will say 'yes'!"
"I'm not confident enough to say this"
"I am not good enough to do this yet"
"People may not always agree"

I noticed the pattern in her speech, and I asked to pause the discussion for a while. I wanted to help her overcome this cycle of negativity in the way she approached the matter.
"Instead of stating the things that you cannot do," I suggested, "why don't you rephrase them into questions that you can ask yourself?"

What do I mean?

If not everyone will say "yes", I'd ask myself "How can I get everyone to say 'yes'?"
If I'm not confident enought to say something, I could ask myself "How can I make myself more confident so that I can say this?"
If I'm not good enough to do this, I'd ask "How can I make myself better?"

And when we ask, we think seriously about the answer. And sometimes we'll be suprised at the things that we can come up with!

Robert Kiyosaki, the famous business writer behind the "Rich Dad, Poor Dad" series of personal development books, is a big proponent of this. I remember reading in his book that while his real dad, his Poor Dad, always said things like "I can't afford that!", his mentor, his Rich Dad, a successful businessman in Hawaii, would askhimself "How can I afford that?"

Its only a minor tweak in our language patterns, but it brings about a major tweak in our attitude to just about anything! I feel this is the make-or-break secret to most achievements in life :)

In the end, instead of having a regular dinner-cum-performance type of installation ceremony, we executed it the way we wanted: with lots of games, and lots of activites, while keeping the Rotaract protocols intact! It happened the way we wanted, because there were enough of us in that committee that didn't buy the "we can't do it" deal.

Instead, we asked ourselves "How can we do it?"